The Care and Feeding of Your Subconscious

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The power of the subconscious is in the soil. 

It’s hard to truly comprehend the full power of our subconscious mind.  But it’s always there, always doing its job, no matter if we pay attention or not.

Much of the time it’s easy to forget that it’s even there.  Most of us are so busy wrestling with the thoughts running through our minds, it’s hard to believe there’s anything but the thoughts we’re thinking.

But it’s there. The subconscious is always doing its job.  Collecting the information we feed it, listening to what we think and feel. And then it gives it all back to us, over, and over, and over again.

Our habitual patterns.  Our habitual beliefs.  Our habitual actions.  Our habitual experiences.  All come directly from our subconscious.  All are the direct result of the thoughts, beliefs, and experiences we’ve fed our subconscious throughout our lives.

In the beginning, before age 6, our subconscious mind is in its full power. Like soft, fertile soil, it easily receives and accepts whatever comes to it though its environment.  It’s a time of super-learning.  And a time of formulation of long-lasting beliefs.

Just like any garden, it’s from this fertile soil that our life unfolds, and grows.  And the ideas, thoughts, and beliefs which are continually reinforced, will grow the fastest, the strongest, and the deepest.  Before long, they will grow into what feels like indisputable, undeniable, facts.

To truly understand, or begin to understand, the power of our subconscious mind, is to finally understand the power that is within all of us.  Dorothy’s ruby slippers were always on her feet, but she didn’t understand, or trust, her power, until, of course, she finally did.

The power of your subconscious is in the soil  And, just like any soil, it can be fertilized, nurtured, turned, weeded, watered, and fed. Overgrowth can be weeded out, and anything can be planted and grown within the right circumstances and environmental factors.  

Here are some tips to feed and care for your subconscious – your inner power.

Weeding  —  Weed out negative thoughts and beliefs, daily. Be mindful of what you’re consistently thinking.  When you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, or reacting to distressing beliefs – pause.  By mindfully observing your thought process, you begin to disempower the negative spin.  You can also direct your mind to think something completely opposite – such as a positive affirmation.  In addition, EFT Tapping is a powerful tool to help weed out the negative feelings associated with your thoughts.  Regular weeding will enable you to free up valuable space within your fertile subconscious mind.

Planting – Decide exactly what you want to grow in your garden.  You can grow anything you like.  What would you like to believe about yourself?  How would you like to feel?  What would you like to experience?  Make a list of the beliefs, thoughts, and experiences you want to cultivate.  For example you can decide to plant Courage, Strength, Joy, Persistence, Discipline, Success, Creativity.  You can also plant the visions of experiences you’ll enjoy as a result of new beliefs and qualities.

Nourishment –  Once you decide what to grow in your subconscious, you’ve got to nourish regularly.  If, for example, you decide to grow courage, you could nourish its grow by thinking strengthening, empowering thoughts, or visualizing yourself accomplishing courageous feats.  Action-oriented experience is like a power-food for your subconscious – so taking inspired action is crucial.  Remember repetition is key.  By repeatedly, and consistently, feeding the feeling of courage, and it will grow within your subconscious, until it feels like an indisputable fact.  

Environment – Plant grows best within specific environmental circumstances, and so do our beliefs.  Be mindful of your surroundings, your media choices, your chosen activities, the people around you.  Do they nourish or deplete your garden?  What do you need more of? What can you let go of?  Remember, you’re in control of the care and feeding of your powerful subconscious.  Be vigilant what you allow to enter it.

I’m continually amazed by the power of my own subconscious to help me heal, grow, and transform.  And I feel incredibly grateful to be a guide for my clients as they access their own power.  Contact me if you’d like to learn more about using Matrix Reimprinting, or EFT Tapping, to harness the power of your subconscious to transform your life. 

What is Matrix Reimprinting?

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I love Matrix Reimprinting!  I love experiencing it as a client, and I LOVE sharing it with my clients.  My clients are amazed at the power of this work to help them quickly resolve long-standing triggers and beliefs.  They’re thrilled with the increased feelings of love, joy, creativity, courage, and support that are created during a Matrix Reimprinting session. 

Matrix Reimprinting adds a whole new dimension to EFT Tapping.  It’s a powerful, experiential process which uses both EFT Tapping and creative visualization to transform disempowering beliefs and feelings. It’s a safe and gentle process, where you connect with younger parts of yourself at the times when your limiting beliefs were originally created. 

Karl Dawson, creator of the Matrix Reimprinting Method, named our younger selves, our ECHOs — or, Energetic Consciousness Holograms. These ECHOs hold memories, emotions, and beliefs, formed during life’s traumatic and painful events. When gently approached with EFT Tapping, our ECHOs will give us the gems of information that empower us to transform our lives.

In a nutshell, here’s how it works: (This work is best done with a certified practitioner)

We start with a persistent feeling or belief. Using EFT Tapping to connect more deeply within, we allow this feeling to lead us back to an earlier, younger time, where we felt this same feeling and belief.  (The subconscious knows how to do this, it’s not something the head has to figure out.)

We connect with our younger self (ECHO), taking the role as our current self to talk to our younger self. We talk to the ECHO in order to find out how she/he is feeling and thinking.  We use EFT Tapping to help the ECHO feel better — allowing them to feel calmer and more relaxed.  (This really works.)

Next, we assist the ECHO in making choices and decisions to resolve their situation. This can include bringing in helpful resources such as people, characters, natural elements, angels, etc.  We assist the ECHO in creating a scene where he/she feels empowered, supported, and loved.   It is this process that enables the ECHO to let go of limiting, negative beliefs. (This part is simply awe-inspiring.)

Once the ECHO has attained the desired feelings and beliefs, we imprint the scene by using a special energetic process.  This allows for the new scene to be imprinted in the subconscious mind.  This process can be used to imprint desirable scenes in both the past and in the future.  (This enables us to envision our lives in completely new ways.)

In Matrix Reimprinting we do not attempt to deny factual events, rather we resolve the feelings and beliefs that have been left frozen in time. 

This powerful process enables us to cultivate desirable feelings such as love, success, creativity, compassion, forgiveness, courage, and power.  It allows us to replace negative beliefs with positive beliefs. These feelings and beliefs, along with the visual scenes, are imprinted into our subconscious, and into the matrix, making them accessible for continued self-empowerment.

I would love to talk to you about Matrix Reimprinting, and how it can help you resolve your limiting patterns and beliefs.

Contact me to learn more. 

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Step into the Matrix.  You’ll be amazed at the wisdom and beauty you’ll find there!

In Courage,

Marian

 

 

Overcome Procrastination

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Procrastination makes easy things hard, hard things harder.  ~ Mason Cooley

Procrastination just doesn’t feel good.  Period.  Right now, just think about something you’re avoiding doing.  How does it feel when you think about what you’re not doing.  If you’re like most of us, thinking about what you’re not doing, but should be doing, can trigger feelings of guilt, anxiety, and lots of self-judgement.  Problem is, when you get mired all those negative feelings, it’s difficult to get anything done!

What’s important is getting clear about the reason why you’re procrastinating in the first place.  Is it because you’re afraid of the outcome?  Or that it’s too hard? Too complicated? Are you afraid of making a mistake? Are you afraid that you won’t succeed? Or that you will succeed?

Most times, fear and uncertainty are underlying ingredients of procrastination.  We avoid what we don’t know, what feels uncomfortable or scary.

So get clear.  Get clear about what you’re avoiding doing.  Get clear about the feelings that get triggered because you are procrastinating.  And, get clear about the feelings you are trying to avoid by procrastinating.

Here are some suggestions to help you move forward:

Focus on the benefits of doing the thing you’re avoiding.  What would happen if you did it?  How good would you feel?  What else could you do as a result of taking this first step?  Set your imagination free and imagine all of the good-feeling benefits you’ll experience once you take action.

Start Small.  – One reason we procrastinate is that we tend to look at the subject of our procrastination as if it’s a great big scary monster.  It looks too hard, too complicated, too overwhelming, too impossible to tackle.  So, to counter this tendency, look instead at the one small step you can take in the direction you’ve been avoiding.  One small step, and then another and another, keeps you moving forward.  That’s all it takes.

Enrich Your Environment — Sometimes we procrastinate because we dread the experience of the task we’re avoiding.  For example, you might dread paying the bills, doing your taxes, writing a report, doing household chores, etc.  To make these tasks more enjoyable, enrich your environment with music or an interesting podcast, a special drink or treat, and even some aromatherapy.  Or, take your work to a café, or a cooperative work-space.  And be sure to get as comfortable as possible.  Enrich your environment, and you’ll enrich your experience and your chances for success.  You  might even enjoy yourself!

Let Go of Resistance —  When we resist a specific action or activity, we’re vulnerable to making it feel far more difficult than it really is.  By moving forward in non-resistance, we accept ourchallenges without making them harder.  Not everything feels pleasurable.  Some things feel uncomfortable and even painful.  When we let go of resisting the unpleasantness of an action, we’re more equipped to handle it.

Increase Your Knowledge —  We often avoid what we don’t know how to do.  So, if there’s something you’d like to do, but are avoiding, increase your knowledge about it.  Find out what you need to know to move towards desired goal.  Oftentimes, just the activity of researching your goal will peak your interest, and inspire you to take action.  ( Be sure, however, to avoid overly researching your goal, since this can lead to even more procrastination.)

Release Fear – Fear is probably one of the biggest underlying factors of procrastination.  If fear is an issue for you, first get clear about the fear you feel when it comes to your procrastination.  Once you’re clear about your fear, you can use EFT Tapping, Heart Breath, or deep breathing to help it release.   Contact me for more information on using EFT Tapping and the Heart Breath.

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In Courage,

Marian

Conquer Self Doubt

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Sylvia Plath once said, “The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt.”

A lot of truth in that statement, for how can we create anything if we’re mired in self-doubt?

Self-doubt is the irritating low-vibration undercurrent that can grab ahold when you’re doing your work, or venturing into something new. It defeats us before we even start.  When given the power, self-doubt can weaken, diminish, and even attempt to extinguish our hearts desires.

What’s worse, is that most times, instead of questioning it, we believe it. We believe that we’re just not good enough, smart enough, powerful enough, diligent enough to do whatever it is our heart is longing for. 

The good news is, we CAN do something about it. We can do simple things that help us move into a place of confidence and trust.

Learning to  count on yourself is one of the most important things you’ll ever do.

Here are some suggestions:

Create a new habit which will benefit you in some way.  Start small.  For example, get up 20 minutes earlier. Meditate at the same each day. Drink water at regular intervals throughout the day. Schedule a specific time to go through your emails.  You get the drift.  Creating a new habit is about showing up for yourself with consistency. The more consistent you are with following through, the more trust and confidence you’ll have in yourself.

Expand your competence When we’re mired in self-doubt we’re often steeped in the belief that we’re incompetent in some way. For the areas in your life you’d like to improve, dive in a little deeper. Learn more, practice more, keep at it. Little by little your competence will grow. For areas where you’re already competent, dive even deeper. The more you grow your competence, the more confident and self-assured you’ll feel.  You’ll realize that it truly is within your power to make the changes you desire.

Ask for guidance. Confide in a trusted friend or mentor. Discuss what you’d like to achieve if it weren’t for your self-doubt. Gather honest input your strengths and weaknesses.  The more knowledge you have, the more power you’ll have to move yourself forward.  The more you practice reaching out for input, the freer and more confident you’ll feel in sharing your ideas.

Use your imagination to see what you want. When we’re swimming in self-doubt, we’re usually imagining exactly what we don’t want. Instead, use creative visualization to see yourself experiencing what you desire. Imagine how it feels, and what you are doing. Really get into the scene, and see it going well for you. Doing this will help you increase your sense of confidence.  It will also facilitate your creative process, and the flow of ideas.

Use EFT Tapping.  EFT Tapping can help clear negative feelings of self doubt, and it can also help you boost positive feelings of confidence. Walking around with a continual undercurrent of self-doubt will only serve to drag you down further. EFT Tapping is quick, powerful, and easy to learn.  Contact me to learn about using EFT Tapping to conquer self doubt.

In Courage,

Marian

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Let Go of Perfectionism

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According to author Anne Lamott:   Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor.

What does perfectionism do to you?  Does is stop you from putting yourself out there?  Does it stop you from finishing creative projects?  Does it make you feel like you’ll never be good enough?  Does it work you too hard?  Or does it make you want to give up and not even try?

I know all about perfectionism.  Lately, I’ve been recording videos for a couple of multi-media projects…and it’s taken me a lot longer (much) than I expected. One reason, is that when I started, I kept trying to get it perfect.   All of it.  The sound, the shot, my appearance, my vocal intonation, and on and on.  But alas, between the tech issues, and my mistakes, it was far from perfect.  I realized it would never BE perfect.  And, I was driving myself crazy trying.    

So I relaxed.  And I took my own advice.  I began welcoming the glitches.  Learning from each one.  And I enjoyed feeling my creative flow, untethered by the constrictions of perfection.  

Once I relaxed into the imperfection of the process, everything got easier.  I felt more productive, finding solutions that I never would have found if I had stayed in the vicious do-over cycle.  And I finally finished my most important video, and it’s not perfect.  But it’s finished and it’s perfect for me at this time.

So many of my clients tell me how perfectionism is truly the voice of the oppressor, just as Anne Lammott said.

It holds them back, forcing them to hide their work for fear that it’s not perfect.

Makes them do far more work than is necessary

Stresses them out.

Keeps them on edge.

Fills them with resentment when they see others doing what they wish they could do.

Prevents them from enjoying their work.

Keeps them pretending they are who they’re not.

Blocks intimacy

And on and on.  It’s time to let it go.  Here are some suggestions:

Notice what it’s doing to you. Observe yourself within a situation where you’re attempting perfection.  Notice how you feel. Notice what you do to attain ‘perfection’.  Notice what goes wrong when you try.  Observe, and ask yourself if this pursuit of perfection is truly how you want to spend your time and energy.

 Get clear on your personal best possible outcome. Often, we reach for someone else’s vision of perfection.  Certainly, it’s beneficial to learn from others as we improve our skills, however, it can be easy to create unreasonable expectations based on someone else’s results.  When we don’t meet these expectations it can lead us to give up, or put undue pressure on ourselves to perform.  You can always, always, do your best.  Accept your current abilities and do the best with what you have.  Create your vision of your best possible outcome with what you have right now.

Redefine what perfection means to you. Each mistake and misstep has the potential to teach you something new. When you accept your mistakes with compassion, and humor, it opens the door to perfect solutions.  Acceptance leads to relaxation, which makes it easier to get things done. Help yourself see imperfections as perfect for what you need to learn and accept about yourself.

 Notice the beauty within imperfectionGo examine the design of the wood grain in a hard wood floor.  Observe the bark of the trunk of a big old tree.  Handle a piece of hand-thrown pottery. Notice how beauty unfolds from even from chaos.  Leonard Cohen expressed this beautifully with these words:

Ring the bells that can ring.
Forget your perfect offering.
There is a crack in everything.
That’s how the light gets in.

Use EFT Tapping. EFT works to help clear perfection’s oppressive shell, and the underlying feelings of stress, anxiety, and self doubt.   I’m currently finalizing the Tap Into Courage Toolkit for Entrepreneurs, Solopreneurs, and Creatives. It’s designed to help clear the most common blocks to success.  One of the modules is all about Perfectionism, since it can be one of the biggest blocks.  If you’d like a free trial of the Perfectionism module once it’s available, contact me.

Truly, letting go of perfectionism is one of the most liberating,  joyful things you can ever do for yourself.

In Blissful Imperfection,

Marian

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