11 Ways to Change Negative Beliefs

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Our beliefs are usually so strong we don’t even question them.  There are some that we might even keep for a lifetime.  It’s often not until something drastic happens that we choose to change them.

Most persistent beliefs are formed when we are young.  We form them as a result of being immersed in the life we’re born into.  We receive input from our experiences, and from trusted sources such as parents, caregivers, friends, teachers, culture, religious institutions, and community.  Our subconscious mind takes this ongoing input to form the bulk of our beliefs. The younger we are, the stronger the belief. 

Back when I first began my training in EFT Tapping, I took a serious look at my beliefs. I was amazed at how many of them were actually holding me back. I had limiting beliefs about love, about success, about health, and about money, of course. One of the most incessant beliefs though, was the belief that I was somehow obligated to please people.

As you might imagine, the persistent belief that I had to please people thrust me into a spin of self-doubt and second-guessing whenever I tried to create something.  Just the thought of having to please people slowed me down tremendously.  Everything felt so difficult – writing newsletters, creating workshops, promoting my business, sometimes even relating to family and friends. 

So, I got to work.  And, using all the tools in my toolbox, I began unraveling my old limiting beliefs.

Now, I wouldn’t say that I’ve completely let go of all my limiting beliefs.  Nor have I let go of my desire to please people. But I have altered my original belief — enormously.  I love offering companionship, services, and products that help people feel good about themselves.

But what I no longer believe, is that I am obligated to please everyone, or even anyone.

I love bringing joy and pleasure to the people in my life.  No obligation, no second guessing, no doubt, just the pure intention to bring more good into the world. Once I changed my belief from one of obligation to one of free choice, I felt more inspired, and capable, to bring the love.

As I mentioned, once I started looking, I found a number of beliefs that no longer serve me. I didn’t release them all at once. It takes time, focus, and commitment to change beliefs. I am, as we all are, a work in progress. But, what I’ve found, is that the more I unravel my limiting beliefs, the easier and faster it happens. 

Remember, a belief is simply a thought, thought over, and over again.

Here are some techniques that can really help you change your negative beliefs: 

Affirmations – Decide what you want to believe and create affirmations that state these beliefs. For example, if you’d like to believe you can be healthy, wealthy, and wise, create affirmations such as:  I love my healthy body, or I love being financially successful.  Repeat your affirmations for 2-5 minutes each, on a daily basis.  Repetition is the key to help you create your new belief.

Look for Evidence – Find examples of people who have overcome obstacles similar to your own.  Make a file of positive role models you can refer to in times of need. This will help you become aware of the possibility of a new, positive belief about your situation.

Positive quotes – Find uplifting quotes from inspiring people.  Search on the internet for quotes about specific topics such as love, peace, abundance, success, happiness, health, etc.  Choose your favorites, and post them around your office or home.  By continually seeing and reading the positive messages, you will input them into your subconscious, and gradually,  you will begin to believe them.

Inspiring podcasts and audios – There are plenty of inspiring podcasts around. Take a look at what’s available on Itunes and Stitcher.  Look for podcasts which inspire you, and listen to interviews and information which will help you see things in a new, positive way.   Hayhouse Radio is a great resource for shows which are specifically created to help listeners change limiting beliefs.

Rewrite negative thoughts and beliefs – Write down a few of your most persistent negative thoughts or beliefs.  Next, rewrite each to state the opposite.  When you notice that you’re thinking a negative thought, or contemplating a negative belief,  insert the opposite rewrite into your mind.  Repeat the positive rewrite a number of times, to help yourself move away from the negative.  Remember, repetition strengthens beliefs.  Keep repeating new positive phrases, and you will begin to believe them. 

Write a new story – Write a new story for yourself.  Write it in the present tense.  Describe a scene where you have the personal qualities and experiences you desire.  Include desired sensory information, such as scents, colors, feelings, and emotions.  Read this story to yourself each day. Stand up as you read it. Change it as desired. Meditate on it.  Bring the scene to life in your mind-body, and you will begin to see it happen. 

Challenge Assumptions – Don’t assume that just because you believe something is true, that it has to be true for you. Remember — a belief is a thought, which is thought over and over.  Our beliefs bring us the evidence of what we believe.  Challenge your beliefs by asking: Is this true?  Is this true for me?  Does this belief help me in my life?  Do I want to keep this belief?  If you answer no to any of these questions, it’s time to alter your belief in the way that feels best for you.

Be Open to the Possibility of New Belief – Think about all the times you’ve changed your beliefs, or had a belief-altering experience.  Allow yourself to open to the possibility that even your strongest beliefs can change.  By opening to possibility, you will invite the flow of new information, allowing you to begin to create a new belief.

Meditation – My favorite go-to.  Meditation, when done on a consistent basis, allows you to drop beneath the logical ego-mind, into the wisdom of your heart and higher self.  It is in this place that you can come to clarity about your beliefs.  Sometimes just this deepened awareness is enough to make an enormous shift.   

EFT Tapping —  EFT Tapping helps to loosen the grip of a belief that no longer serves you.  If you are familiar with EFT Tapping, try tapping on the points while thinking and/or talking about a limiting belief. This will help loosen and release associated feelings, and neutralize the belief.  If you’re not familiar with EFT Tapping, or if you would like assistance in working on a persistent belief, contact me for more information.

Matrix Reimprinting —  Matrix Reimprinting uses EFT Tapping and visualization to help unravel long-standing beliefs.  Matrix is very powerful, and helps to unravel a belief at the place it was created.  This technique is best done with a professional.  Contact me if you’d like to learn more about Matrix Reimprinting.

Choose to believe. Believe in the infinite possibilities all around us. Most of all, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!

In Courage,

Marian

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It’s Time to Feel GOOD!

 

 

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ith so much disconcerting news lately, it can feel impossible to get away from it all.  And, it’s oh, so easy, to get sucked in and pulled down along with it.  When I get dragged into the unrelenting muck it often triggers a jumble of feelings — ranging from irritability and anger to sadness, and fear.  If I allow it, it can be truly paralyzing!

When I’m triggered with unwanted feelings, it’s hard to get anything done — especially anything creative.  Fortunately, I’ve tried and tested a number of very effective techniques that help me feel better — quickly. 

I’ve always been all about feeling good.  I thrive on feeling good and I thrive on finding ways to feel good when I don’t.   And, I’m passionate about helping my clients feel great!

For me, feeling good is absolutely crucial in order to do the work I do.    

Here are some of my all-time favorite mood-boosting techniques.  Remember — the subconscious mind, and the body,  need to be continually nourished with positive input in order for you to feel your best.

Use Affirmations – Write down 3-5 feel-good affirmations  that you can say to yourself throughout the day.  For example:  “I am successful.”  “I love the work I do.”  “I feel energetic and alive.”  Repeat these affirmations often.  Repetition will help imprint the affirmations into your subconscious, helping them become automatic beliefs.

Acknowledge Yourself —  Create a list of 25-50 of your accomplishments and personal qualities that you feel good about. Keep this list handy. Refer to it on a regular basis, to remind yourself of all of the good within you.

Do Something Nice – Surprise someone with a kind gesture or gift.  Send a thank you note to a friend, client, colleague, or family member.  Offer to do something challenging for someone.  Volunteer your services.  Delight in the pleasure of helping someone else feel good.

Dance to a happy song – Create a playlist of happy songs.  Take a break and dance (and/or sing) to one or all of them.  Keep them handy for regular use. 

Read Uplifting News – Some good sites include:  https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/, http://www.dailygood.org/, and https://www.positive.news/

Read Uplifting Quotes – There are a number of websites that specialize in a variety of quotes.  Search for uplifting, positive, inspiring quotes.  Keep a list of your favorites.  Post them where you will see them.

Write a Gratitude List – Write a gratitude list, daily.  As you write your list, tap into the feeling of gratitude.  Gratitude is a very uplifting feeling, and will help you lift your spirits, and raise your vibration.

Meditate –  My indispensable  go-to.  Meditation works.  The act of sitting in stillness helps to clear and center the mind.  Starting the day with meditation helps to keep the day centered, no matter what’s going on. 

Nourish Your Body — A nourishing diet is absolutely crucial for optimal energy and mood.  For best results, eat plenty of alkalizing green vegetables, colorful fruits and veggies, good fats, fiber-rich whole grains, lean proteins, and probiotics.  Drink plenty of water, and minimize caffeine and alcohol. 

Move Your Body — Moving your body will help you release built up tension.  Do some quick yoga.  Take a Nature walk.  Get up and stretch.  Dance.  Go to the gym.  Work out to a video.  Enjoy!  

Use EFT Tapping–  EFT Tapping is one of the most effective techniques for reducing the stress hormone cortisol.  Just using your fingertips to tap on your Karate Chop, while breathing deeply, is enough to promote a sense of relaxation.  Click here for an illustrated description of the EFT Tapping Points.

Feel Good!

Marian

Contact me to find out how EFT Tapping and Matrix Reimprinting can help you feel your best!

 

The Care and Feeding of Your Subconscious

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The power of the subconscious is in the soil. 

It’s hard to truly comprehend the full power of our subconscious mind.  But it’s always there, always doing its job, no matter if we pay attention or not.

Much of the time it’s easy to forget that it’s even there.  Most of us are so busy wrestling with the thoughts running through our minds, it’s hard to believe there’s anything but the thoughts we’re thinking.

But it’s there. The subconscious is always doing its job.  Collecting the information we feed it, listening to what we think and feel. And then it gives it all back to us, over, and over, and over again.

Our habitual patterns.  Our habitual beliefs.  Our habitual actions.  Our habitual experiences.  All come directly from our subconscious.  All are the direct result of the thoughts, beliefs, and experiences we’ve fed our subconscious throughout our lives.

In the beginning, before age 6, our subconscious mind is in its full power. Like soft, fertile soil, it easily receives and accepts whatever comes to it though its environment.  It’s a time of super-learning.  And a time of formulation of long-lasting beliefs.

Just like any garden, it’s from this fertile soil that our life unfolds, and grows.  And the ideas, thoughts, and beliefs which are continually reinforced, will grow the fastest, the strongest, and the deepest.  Before long, they will grow into what feels like indisputable, undeniable, facts.

To truly understand, or begin to understand, the power of our subconscious mind, is to finally understand the power that is within all of us.  Dorothy’s ruby slippers were always on her feet, but she didn’t understand, or trust, her power, until, of course, she finally did.

The power of your subconscious is in the soil  And, just like any soil, it can be fertilized, nurtured, turned, weeded, watered, and fed. Overgrowth can be weeded out, and anything can be planted and grown within the right circumstances and environmental factors.  

Here are some tips to feed and care for your subconscious – your inner power.

Weeding  —  Weed out negative thoughts and beliefs, daily. Be mindful of what you’re consistently thinking.  When you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, or reacting to distressing beliefs – pause.  By mindfully observing your thought process, you begin to disempower the negative spin.  You can also direct your mind to think something completely opposite – such as a positive affirmation.  In addition, EFT Tapping is a powerful tool to help weed out the negative feelings associated with your thoughts.  Regular weeding will enable you to free up valuable space within your fertile subconscious mind.

Planting – Decide exactly what you want to grow in your garden.  You can grow anything you like.  What would you like to believe about yourself?  How would you like to feel?  What would you like to experience?  Make a list of the beliefs, thoughts, and experiences you want to cultivate.  For example you can decide to plant Courage, Strength, Joy, Persistence, Discipline, Success, Creativity.  You can also plant the visions of experiences you’ll enjoy as a result of new beliefs and qualities.

Nourishment –  Once you decide what to grow in your subconscious, you’ve got to nourish regularly.  If, for example, you decide to grow courage, you could nourish its grow by thinking strengthening, empowering thoughts, or visualizing yourself accomplishing courageous feats.  Action-oriented experience is like a power-food for your subconscious – so taking inspired action is crucial.  Remember repetition is key.  By repeatedly, and consistently, feeding the feeling of courage, and it will grow within your subconscious, until it feels like an indisputable fact.  

Environment – Plant grows best within specific environmental circumstances, and so do our beliefs.  Be mindful of your surroundings, your media choices, your chosen activities, the people around you.  Do they nourish or deplete your garden?  What do you need more of? What can you let go of?  Remember, you’re in control of the care and feeding of your powerful subconscious.  Be vigilant what you allow to enter it.

I’m continually amazed by the power of my own subconscious to help me heal, grow, and transform.  And I feel incredibly grateful to be a guide for my clients as they access their own power.  Contact me if you’d like to learn more about using Matrix Reimprinting, or EFT Tapping, to harness the power of your subconscious to transform your life. 

What is Matrix Reimprinting?

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I love Matrix Reimprinting!  I love experiencing it as a client, and I LOVE sharing it with my clients.  My clients are amazed at the power of this work to help them quickly resolve long-standing triggers and beliefs.  They’re thrilled with the increased feelings of love, joy, creativity, courage, and support that are created during a Matrix Reimprinting session. 

Matrix Reimprinting adds a whole new dimension to EFT Tapping.  It’s a powerful, experiential process which uses both EFT Tapping and creative visualization to transform disempowering beliefs and feelings. It’s a safe and gentle process, where you connect with younger parts of yourself at the times when your limiting beliefs were originally created. 

Karl Dawson, creator of the Matrix Reimprinting Method, named our younger selves, our ECHOs — or, Energetic Consciousness Holograms. These ECHOs hold memories, emotions, and beliefs, formed during life’s traumatic and painful events. When gently approached with EFT Tapping, our ECHOs will give us the gems of information that empower us to transform our lives.

In a nutshell, here’s how it works: (This work is best done with a certified practitioner)

We start with a persistent feeling or belief. Using EFT Tapping to connect more deeply within, we allow this feeling to lead us back to an earlier, younger time, where we felt this same feeling and belief.  (The subconscious knows how to do this, it’s not something the head has to figure out.)

We connect with our younger self (ECHO), taking the role as our current self to talk to our younger self. We talk to the ECHO in order to find out how she/he is feeling and thinking.  We use EFT Tapping to help the ECHO feel better — allowing them to feel calmer and more relaxed.  (This really works.)

Next, we assist the ECHO in making choices and decisions to resolve their situation. This can include bringing in helpful resources such as people, characters, natural elements, angels, etc.  We assist the ECHO in creating a scene where he/she feels empowered, supported, and loved.   It is this process that enables the ECHO to let go of limiting, negative beliefs. (This part is simply awe-inspiring.)

Once the ECHO has attained the desired feelings and beliefs, we imprint the scene by using a special energetic process.  This allows for the new scene to be imprinted in the subconscious mind.  This process can be used to imprint desirable scenes in both the past and in the future.  (This enables us to envision our lives in completely new ways.)

In Matrix Reimprinting we do not attempt to deny factual events, rather we resolve the feelings and beliefs that have been left frozen in time. 

This powerful process enables us to cultivate desirable feelings such as love, success, creativity, compassion, forgiveness, courage, and power.  It allows us to replace negative beliefs with positive beliefs. These feelings and beliefs, along with the visual scenes, are imprinted into our subconscious, and into the matrix, making them accessible for continued self-empowerment.

I would love to talk to you about Matrix Reimprinting, and how it can help you resolve your limiting patterns and beliefs.

Contact me to learn more. 

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Step into the Matrix.  You’ll be amazed at the wisdom and beauty you’ll find there!

In Courage,

Marian