Name: Nikki Ostrower
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As I write this, the autumn wind is blowing hard. Leaves swirl and fall. The trees and their branches creak, and sway. And yet the trees keep standing, rooted in strength and purpose.

Of course, there are storms that fell and uproot the trees. But so often, it’s the trees with a compromised root system, or some sort of decay, that fall. Healthy trees, with strong wood, and deep roots, are most likely to weather the storm.

As a sensitive person, I know what’s it’s like to falter and stumble in my own truth. Not so long ago, I felt consumed by a persistent cloud of other people’s opinions, swirling around me, distracting me. So many differing ideas to consider and conform to. So many rules to follow. I was pulled in too many directions.

And while I stumbled around in that cloud of other people’s stuff, I somehow felt responsible for it all. Speaking up for myself, felt onerous.

But of course, I am not responsible for it all. I am only responsible for myself. And when I let go of believing I’m responsible for other people’s reactions, I am free to stand in my Truth.

It’s a continual process, but one I enjoy. The deepening of WHO I AM, and the letting go of all that impedes my natural flow.

In my work with myself and with my clients, I can clearly see the distracting swirl that attempts to obscure the truth of who we are. I can also see the beauty of Truth, waiting, and ready to be seen.

So how do we stand strong, when we feel like hiding? How do we speak up, when we doubt our own voices? How do we honor ourselves, when we’re pulled in so many directions? How do we show our true colors, even when it feels so scary?

Embracing Truth is not always easy. It doesn’t happen overnight. But believe me, the experience is truly sacred.

Here’s how:

Get clear about Who You Are. Only you can know the Truth of Who You Are. Write a list of what you love about yourself, what you love to do, what you know to be true. Spend time with this list, and add to it as you need.

Meditate – sit quietly, daily. It’s by sitting with yourself, that you will come to know yourself on the deepest levels possible. Practice by sitting in silence, or with meditative music, for 5-10 minutes to start. Work up to 20, 30, and 60 minutes or longer. Results are cumulative, and profound.

Use Your Imagination. See yourself standing in a bubble, in the midst of a field of other people’s opinions, reactions, and worries. Next, imagine a white light (or any color you like) filling your bubble. As the light fills your bubble, allow it to wash away everything but you. See yourself standing strong, and peacefully, in a clear, clean space. Call upon this cleansing bubble as you move through your day.

Practice. Experience will help you move forward. Experiment sharing your truth, and unique forms of expression, with people who support you. This could be with a friend or family member, within an online group or support group, or with a therapist or counselor. You can even practice recording yourself with your smartphone. The more you practice, the easier it will get.

Get Started. What is it you want to create? So often we hold back, waiting for some sort of permission to get started. Express yourself creatively, just for the experience. This will assist you in clarifying, and expanding, your unique style.

Connect With Your Intuition. Use EFT Tapping, Meditation, and the Heartbreath Meditation to connect with yourself. It’s within this deep connection, that your intuition is strengthened. Become familiar with this space, and allow it to inform you. Take direction from your intuition, and let the rest go.

Reveal your true colors, share the beauty of who you really are.

In Truth and Love,

Marian

For more information on how EFT Tapping and Matrix Reimprinting will help you stand in your own powerful truth, contact me.

Absolutely no question. Our world needs LOVE more than ever right now. Looking around it’s easy to get sucked into the seemingly endless outbursts of anger inflaming the USA and beyond.

It’s never been more important to actively cultivate Love and Kindness.

Though so much of the anger is certainly well justified, the fueling of it does nothing to ease our pain. And, it increases the growing fire of dueling insults. Anger alone is not an effective tool for building communication and healthy relationships.

What if, instead of fueling anger, we pause long enough to find the loving, kind, respectful way, to express what we need and want.

My hope is that we can transform our anger into the fuel for a revolution of LOVE, KINDNESS, and RESPECT for all.

Here are some suggestions to help you increase your internal feelings of love and kindness. When you expand your own inner light, it’s easier to share it with the world. And the extra added bonuses are endless….

Give gifts of kindness. Daily. – Random or not, kindness is always valuable. In sharing your gifts of kindness, you increase your own sense of well-being. By not being attached to others’ responses to your kindness, you move into the joy of being kind just to be kind. Whether it’s opening the door for someone, stopping your car to allow someone to merge ahead of you, helping a neighbor, giving a compliment, or lending your smile…. kindness is always valuable, and most often appreciated.

Extra added bonus – When people notice others being kind, they are more likely to act kindly themselves.

Increase your love vibration. It’s difficult to act in a loving way when you’re feeling anxious, sad, or angry. Commit to practices which help you tune into the peace and wisdom of your heart. The Loving Kindness Meditation is one such practice which will help you increase your feelings of love for yourself and for others. Click here for the Metta Institute’s description of this meditation. And of course, I love the Heart Breath Meditation. By breathing into the power of your heart, you can actually increase your heart’s resonance. Here’s the link to download a free meditation.

Extra added bonus — By increasing your love vibration, you will automatically bring more love into the world.

Listen deeply to build deeper understanding — What I hear so often from my clients, is that the people around them don’t really understand them. It’s simple — everyone wants to be heard and understood. And, listening deeply is how we help. It might feel difficult when the person to whom you’re listening feels angry or sad, or says something that conflicts with your own beliefs. It’s in the listening, however, that we can move beyond assumptions, and into deeper understanding of the truth. Listening to one another, without trying to defend our views, or fix each others problems, is what helps us find common ground. And deeper compassion.

Extra added bonus — People who are listened to will often feel and act more kindly.

Send Loving Thoughts — Send benevolent, loving thoughts wherever you are. Send them to family members, friends, animals, strangers on the street, train conductors, cab drivers, people in cars, shop keepers, the person in front of you in line. To step it up a notch, practice sending benevolent, loving thoughts to people with whom you have differences. Generate and share the thoughts you want more of yourself.

Extra added bonus –Sending loving thoughts will not only help you spread love, it will also help you feel it as you share it.

Let it go with EFT Tapping – EFT Tapping is an excellent tool to help you release your anger, fear, sadness, disappointment, and any other feelings that might be inhibiting your desire to be kind and loving. When you’re clear of built-up emotions, you will feel freer to express kind and loving thoughts and actions. To learn how EFT Tapping can help you clear away unloving feelings, contact me.

Extra added bonus — Clearing unwanted emotions with EFT Tapping will absolutely, positively, change your life!

In Love and Courage,

Marian

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