Marian Buck Murray

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EFT Tapping for Anxiety Relief

January 22, 2020 by Marian Buck-Murray Leave a Comment

Anxiety is no fun.  At all.  Anxiety, in fact, diminishes brain function.

No doubt you’ve noticed that it’s harder to articulate clearly when you’re feeling anxious or stressed.  That’s because cortisol, when high, triggers blood loss from the ‘thinking’ part of the brain.  Cortisol is a major stress hormone, and anti-inflammatory, however when diverted for anxiety, it can wreak havoc on our body-mind.

When it comes to reducing both anxiety and inflammation,  EFT Tapping is one of my absolute favorite tools.  In addition, turmeric is an anti-inflammatory superstar, and has been shown to be helpful for anxiety!  Learn more about this beautiful golden gem.

Here, in this video, I share a sample EFT Tapping round to help you release anxiety.  Before you start, find a comfortable space, and have a glass of water nearby.  Enjoy!

(HEALTH & WELLNESS UPDATE:  As EFT involves touching your face, wash your hands vigorously with soap and water for at least 20 seconds, or use hand sanitizer,  before beginning. If you prefer, you can also vary the points by using only the points on torso and hand.)

And, as always, reach out if you’d like personal guidance in EFT Tapping.

Peace,

Marian

Filed Under: EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Uncategorized Tagged With: anti-inflammatory, anxiety relief, Certified EFT Practitioner, cortisol, curcumin, EFT tapping, EFT Tapping for Anxiety Relief, reduce cortisol with tapping, Tapping for stress and anxiety, turmeric

Overcome Social Anxiety– Tips to Make it So Much Easier!

September 27, 2018 by Marian Buck-Murray Leave a Comment

 

Frequently my clients will talk about feeling anxious when meeting new people, or  participating in social situations.  I understand their anxiety.  And though I still deal with it, I have created ways to overcome it, so I can step into new situations with ease.

Social anxiety can be more acute for sensitive, empathic people. Consistently being attuned to how others are feeling can create a sense of overwhelm and discomfort.  In addition, sensitive people are more apt to worry about what other people think of them. This can easily trigger an ongoing mind-loop of anxious thoughts, which of course will make socializing even more difficult.

The key to overcoming social anxiety, is somewhat paradoxical.  The key is to both detach from what others are thinking, and at the same time, listen completely to what they are saying. 

We can’t ever truly know what a person is thinking.  However, when we listen carefully, we can understand deeply.  And people love to be understood.

Here are the steps which help me overcome my own anxiety:

Positive visualization.  Before the event, I sit down and visualize things going smoothly.  This is an important step, because we’re so often visualizing that things will go poorly. In my visualization I don’t get very detailed.  Instead, I visualize the scene filled with peace, laughter, and joy. I visualize, and sense, how I’d like to feel when I’m there.  This technique is amazingly helpful. It’s gotten me though interviews, corporate talks, workshops I’m hosting, holiday parties, and more.

EFT Tapping. Again, before the event, I do a few rounds of EFT Tapping.  I tune into any anxiety I might be feeling, and I tap.  This helps reduce cortisol, the major stress hormone.  Sometimes only 5 minutes of tapping will do the trick.  For more anxiety-provoking situations I might work on it longer, or get help from another practitioner.

Deep Breathing. Once you get to your event, remember to breathe deeply.  Check in with yourself to make sure you are breathing.  Shallow breathing, up high in your chest, will trigger a sense of stress. Deep breathing, from down in your belly, turns on the relaxation response.

Listen Deeply. When talking with someone at the event, someone you know, or someone you don’t, remember to listen deeply to what they are saying. Most people truly like to talk about themselves. And everyone loves to be heard and understood.  So, rather than stressing about what you should say, relax, and listen.  Drop out of your head, and allow yourself to tap into your intuitive flow.  Ask questions to learn more about the person you’re with.  This will help form a connection, and create an easier flow of communication.

Find Your People. Now, it’s definitely important to step out of your comfort zone to meet new people.  However, if you feel overwhelmed by social anxiety at first, it’s okay to start by spending time with just a few people, or even one person, with whom you feel comfortable.  The goal here, is not to use these people as a crutch, but rather to use deep listening, and question-asking, to help you build your confidence.  Get yourself going, and then step out to meet someone new.

Plan Your Exit – Often times it’s okay to leave early. It’s also okay to excuse yourself for a moment to go outside to get some air. Social events can be over-stimulating for anyone, especially a sensitive person. So, when appropriate, and if needed, plan an early exit. Bring your own car, or agree ahead of time on an exit time with whomever is driving. Just knowing you can leave early will help you relax and enjoy yourself.  And, if you’re truly okay, you might even want to stay longer than you planned.

By following these steps, you will help make socializing will feel easier and easier.  You’ll make a deeper connection with more people, and therefore feel comfortable around more people. You might even begin to crave social events.  I do, even though I still get anxious sometimes.

Need help calming your own social anxiety?  Contact me.

In Courage,

Marian

 

 

 

Filed Under: EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Uncategorized Tagged With: anxiety relief, creative visualization, deep breathing, deep listening, EFT tapping, Empath, sensitive people, social anxiety, Socializing

Speak Easy: 5 Steps to Easier Public Speaking

September 21, 2018 by Marian Buck-Murray Leave a Comment

 

It’s said that some people would rather die than speak in public. You might be one of them.  Certainly, if you’re a sensitive person, you might avoid public speaking at all costs.

Public speaking can be difficult for the sensitive person, because we’re often more concerned about what other people feel and think. This can create a sense of anxiety, and anxiety, of course, makes it really hard to articulate clearly.

When we’re feeling anxious, or overly stressed, we experience a rise in cortisol.  This rise in cortisol triggers blood loss from the thinking part of our brain. High cortisol limits the brain’s ability to process and articulate information. This, obviously, makes effortless articulation nearly impossible – especially on the stage or in front of a group.

So what to do?  Here are some steps to make public speaking easier for you. These are the steps I take each time I speak or offer a workshop:

Be prepared. No matter the type of speaking engagement, it’s crucial to do your work ahead of time. This means doing your research, refining and updating your knowledge, planning your talk, writing your outline, and creating any hand-outs or informational documents.  Ahead of time.  Preparation will help you deepen your well of knowledge about your topic.  It’s this well of knowledge that will help keep you in the flow once you’re on stage.

Let Go. Once you’ve done your preparation, you’re ready to let go.  Allow time (plenty) before your event to permit the creative process to take over.  Keep a notebook handy to write down spontaneous ideas and additions to add to your outline.  This is the time to give your mind a break.  You’ve done the work, it’s time to trust the process.

Relax. Use the hours before your event to relax.  Meditate.  Listen to soothing music.  Take a walk in Nature.  Keep your energy field as clear as possible from negative disruptions.  Get yourself into the ‘zone’ of relaxed energy flow.

Use Stress-Relief Tools.  So, you’ve done your preparation.  You’ve allowed the creative process to work with you.  You’ve relaxed (hopefully).  Now, when your moment on stage is imminent, use in-the-moment tools to relieve stress.  These tools include:

Deep Breathing – Slow, deep breaths will turn on the relaxation response.

EFT Tapping – Tapping  on the karate chop, or other points – this helps to reduce cortisol, so you can think more clearly.

Heart Breath – Close your eyes, and Imagine that you’re taking slow, deep breaths in and out of your heart. Allow yourself to sense the energy in your heart lightening and expanding. Breathe this way for 1 minute or longer. The Heart Breath helps to entrain the brain to be calmer and more effective.

 Speak. You’re fully prepared.  You have a deep well of knowledge.  You might even have a brief outline by your side to refer to if needed.  You’ve used your relaxation tools. Now it’s time to let go, and move into your zone.  Allow your knowledge and talent to flow through you.  Speak.  It’s all within you.  You’ve got this, go for it!

Need help getting up the courage to speak, or to put yourself ‘out there’?  Reach out to me, and learn how EFT tapping can help.

Blessings,

Marian

 

Filed Under: EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Uncategorized Tagged With: anxiety relief, articulate easily, easier public speaking, effective brain function, EFT tapping, public speaking, Reduce Cortisol, relaxation, stress relief, tips for public speaking

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