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How to Thrive in This Sometimes Toxic World

April 25, 2018 by Marian Buck-Murray Leave a Comment

 

My clients often tell me about feeling challenged to stay happy and calm in a world that can feel so cold, hard, and even toxic at times. This challenge can feel especially acute for those of us who are highly sensitive and empathic.  Often there’s a question about how to handle ‘difficult’ people and challenges without falling off track, getting stepped upon, or hurt in some way. Although it is certainly not possible to control anyone, there are many ways to make situations better by shifting our perceptions, and healing our inner triggers.

Here are some tips to help you not only survive, but truly thrive in the world today.

Let go of trying to change people. It’s wasted energy.  Focus instead on cultivating your own inner-peace with your favorite practices.  When we’re feeling peaceful, everything feels easier.  And, many times, the person, or situation will seem less challenging as well.  Let go of your need to be right, or fix someone, and observe how others respond.

Work on your own triggers.  When things get tough, it’s easy to get triggered.  If you feel triggered by someone’s actions, or by an event or circumstance, that’s a sign that you might have unhealed wounds.  Use these uncomfortable situations as a way to send love and compassion to your inner wounds. Sometimes, this compassion is enough to soothe an inflamed trigger.  EFT Tapping  helps to deactivate triggers, so that you can feel more comfortable, no matter what’s going on.  Contact me  to find out how to use EFT Tapping to deactivate your triggers.

Speak up for yourself. Even though it might feel more comfortable to stay silent when people or situations upset you, speaking up for yourself is crucial. This doesn’t mean unleashing your anger at every upsetting circumstance.  On the contrary.  If you’re feeling anxious, or highly emotional, it’s best to pause to allow yourself to breathe slowly, and deeply. This will help you reduce cortisol, and relax your nervous system.  When you’re relaxed, the thinking part of your brain receives more blood, and is therefore more effective.  This will allow you to articulate what you need to say.  It will also increase your chances of being heard.  (If you find that you’re not calm enough to speak, consider speaking up at a time when you feel calmer.)

Take Control of your Media Usage. Social media, tv, and news all take a toll on our vitality. Stay mindful about your listening, viewing, and reading choices.  This doesn’t mean you have to put your head in the sand.  Instead, by choosing wisely, and limiting your media usage, you will cultivate a sense of balanced control.

Detox your environment. To truly thrive, detoxifying your environment is necessary. Environmental toxins found in water, air, plastics, and textiles will put a strain on your energy and nervous system. When possible, take action to eliminate or reduce your exposure to environmental toxins. This might mean filtering your water or air, reducing your use of plastic, or gradually replacing synthetics with natural fabrics.  It’s worth it.

Eat clean. Eat plenty of greens, eliminate or reduce simple carbs, and drink lots of water.  Choose minimally processed, and organic when possible.  If you eat animal products, grass-fed, and wild are usually your best choices for minimal exposure to toxins.

Detox Your Body-Mind – Salt baths, yoga, meditation, dance, exercise, massage, prayer, and mind-body therapies are all excellent tools to keep yourself vibrant and happy. Regular practice, especially for sensitive people, is crucial to maintain vibrant happiness and health.

Take care of yourself.  We need your light!

In Courage,

Marian

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Filed Under: EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Uncategorized Tagged With: body-mind therapies, challenging people, detoxification, EFT tapping, emotional triggers, reduce media usage, speak up, thrive

18 Ways to Empower Yourself in 2018

January 11, 2018 by Marian Buck-Murray 2 Comments

 

It’s time.  Time to empower ourselves so we can navigate the tumultuous terrain ahead.  We’re being called to step up, stand up, and make change happen. 

What I truly believe, is that the more we honor our sensitivity and compassion, the more sensitivity and compassion we’ll bring to our sometimes insensitive world.  Too often, it’s the sensitive soul who stays in the background.  It’s time to take a stand for the beauty and love within all of us. 

It’s time for Bold Sensitivity.

Here are 18 ways to help yourself feel more empowered this year, and beyond.

Clean up Your Food – Eat clean, green, and lean.  Detoxify your system, of excess sugar, caffeine, alcohol, and carbs, all of which will weaken your system.

Boost Your Immunity – Use herbs and superfoods such as astragalus, hibiscus, maca, green drinks, shiitakes, burdock, probiotic foods, and umeboshi plum.  All will help strengthen your immunity.

Strengthen your boundaries – By giving and doing for too many, you will deplete your power.  Set clear, healthy boundaries around your time and space.  If you find yourself overwhelmed by loose boundaries, tackle them one by one, starting with a simple one.

Meditate each morning – Morning meditation will help empower you throughout your entire day. 

Clean up your self-talk — Negative self-talk will weaken your spirit.  Here’s a way to clean it up: Get a pen and paper. In the left-hand column, write down a list of negative things you commonly say to yourself.  In the right column, write a list of corresponding positive responses you can tell yourself instead. Practice your positive responses. 

Challenge yourself – Open up to challenges. Expand your limits.  Don’t be afraid of being a beginner, or of making mistakes. The more you challenge yourself, the more proficient you’ll become, and the more powerful you’ll feel!

Exercise your core – The third chakra, the abdominal area, is our power center.  The more you exercise it, the more centered and powerful you’ll feel. Try yoga, pilates, sit-ups, crunches, and/or any other exercises that will strengthen your core.

Clear Your Energy System — Use EFT Tapping to clear unwanted feelings. EFT tapping works to clear energy disruptions, allowing you to access your authentic power more easily.  Click here for a diagram of the points.

Create Nurturing, Empowering Routines — Incorporate nurturing, empowering, routines into your daily life.  How will you start your day?  How will you help yourself enjoy and fully participate in your day?  How will you end your day, so that you sleep well, and wake refreshed?   

Surround yourself with encouraging people — Surround yourself with people who will help build you up when you’re down, and who will encourage your strengths, abilities, and dreams. 

Do a media detox — There’s a lot of toxicity in the news these days. Too much of it can feel depleting, exhausting, and overwhelming.  Allow yourself a detox by limiting your exposure, turning off notifications, switching the channel. Decide how and when you will get the news.  Be in control.

Do something you’re passionate about – Engage your passions!  Whatever they are!  Read, write, play music, sing, create art, volunteer, speak up, take a stand. Ignite your passions feel the sense of true empowerment.

Do Something Scary — It doesn’t have to be a big scary.  Anything scary will do.  What I hear about most from my clients (and myself) is the big sense of relief that comes from getting it over with.  And, often it’s not as bad as we thought.  The best part is that you’ll emerge feeling more empowered, with a renewed sense of courage.

Watch an inspiring movie — Watch a fact-based documentary about someone who inspires you.  Use your inspiration to express yourself in a bold new way.

Ask for help – Asking for help can be very empowering.  If you need help, connect with a trustworthy friend, coach, counselor, or therapist.  We can’t do everything alone — we become far more powerful when we work together.

Get an accountability partner —   Ask a friend or colleague to assist you in committing to self-empowerment. The more you show up for your commitments, the more empowered you’ll feel.

Create a list of power words – Create a list of words that give a sense of self-empowerment, or that describe ways in which you’d like to feel.  For example, use words such as:  productive, courageous, prosperous, prolific, and strong.  Post these words around your space so that you see them regularly.

Listen – Listen to whatever empowers you. Music. Radio. Podcasts. Meditations.  There’s a wealth of inspiration out there in the sound waves.

Do what empowers you. Let go of what depletes you. The world needs your light.

Happy 2018!

In Courage,

Marian

Need some help with self-empowerment? Contact me.

Filed Under: EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Uncategorized Tagged With: accountability, bold sensitivity, boost immunity, compassion, EFT tapping, meditation, negative self-talk, self-empowerment, Sensitivity, speak up, step up, strengthen boundaries, take a stand

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I started working with Marian over four years ago when I was experiencing recurrent miscarriages. It was an extremely vulnerable and traumatic time and I was lucky to find Marian through a friend’s recommendation. I had never done anything besides talk therapy previously and I was unfamiliar with EFT but I knew I needed something different. Marian educated me about EFT and its benefits. She tailored each session to my unique needs depending on what was going on for me emotionally and also used visualizations and breathwork. These are skills that I  also used on my own outside of our sessions. Marian is extremely skilled, grounding, empathetic and insightful. Even when I didn’t know what I needed, she listened and intuitively knew what to do. Her guidance helped me heal and move forward in my quest to be a mother. Our work together has truly been transformative for me and I continue to value our work now that I’m a new mother and am faced with new challenges.

~Susanna

Our session was incredible. I’m still in absolute awe at how quickly you led me to the core issues that were tangling me up. So often I would feel the impact of the inner critical voice on my emotions (I’d FEEL depressed, overwhelmed, stuck, anxious)…but I never knew what the core limiting beliefs exactly were. That you exposed them so effortlessly amazes me. I’m blown away by how good I feel – truly it is like I’m breathing deeper, feeling lighter, clearer– an everyday-kind-of joy just feels so much more accessible right now. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your work- I can’t wait to continue further with you!

 ~ Lisa Grace Byrne, MPH  Author of Replenish, Founder of WellGroundedLife.com

We have been honored to have Marian’s presence at our Company to learn more about stress reducing techniques like tapping and heart breath meditations.  Marian empowered many employees to utilize such an accessible technique to help manage emotions in the corporate setting.

~Zena Kim, Head of Wellness Passion Group, A+E Networks

THANK YOU.  I'm sure you must hear testimonials all the time, but just your presence, voice and spirit make a huge difference in the way I think and do things - and I change! It's really a miracle, and you are the catalyst. Your guidance is invaluable.

~D.G.

Thank you so much for the session yesterday. It’s so freeing to feel grounded and energetically unblocked at the same time. You’ve been such an incredible guide and support this past year. I’m astounded by how much I’ve learned and how far I’ve come.

~Diana F.

Thank you so much, Marian!  I have held such appreciation in my heart for you and for the powerful work you have done with me.  I want to come see you for some more matrix reimprinting and EFT.  The more I expand the more I see. And I see more opportunities to release old ways and adopt new patterns that will serve my fullest expression of my soul's journey.

Leslie Goldman, Fine Artist www.wildcherryart.com

 

Thank you for agreeing to speak at NAO Wellness! I loved hearing your story, it’s so captivating and inspiring.  The feedback from the workshop was amazing – participants said it was transformative, that the energy in the room completely shifted, and more. I was truly blown away, I’m still feeling all the good vibes. You are such a gift.

~ Nikki Ostrower, Founder and Principal Nutritionist at NAO Wellness.

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Joseph Campbell
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