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Make Friends with Your Inner Critic

January 22, 2020 by Marian Buck-Murray Leave a Comment

It might sound counter-intuitive. Why on earth would we want to be friends with a nasty bully?

Why? Because, this nasty bully is actually a voice from the past.

A voice that remembers our wounds and feels our pain.

It’s a younger part of ourselves, trying to stay safe, trying do to the right thing.

And maybe, just maybe, it wants to be on our side.

In this video I share some suggestions for bringing love and compassion to the critic, so you can transform it into a friendly ally.

 

 

Be Kind To Yourself,

Marian

P.S.  If you’d like some friendly encouragement, along with some help for your inner critic, contact me. 

Filed Under: EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Uncategorized Tagged With: inner ally, Inner Critic, Kindness, love and compassion, negative self-talk, tame inner critic

You Are Enough: How to Cultivate Self-Love

January 28, 2019 by Marian Buck-Murray Leave a Comment

 

Without ample self-love, you will never feel good enough, successful enough, beautiful enough, or loveable enough.  It truly is that simple.  And…if only it were that simple!

Self-love, authentic, non-egoic self-love, can feel tricky.  We’re often taught to diminish ourselves, so as not to brag or boast. And, for sensitive people, it can feel especially tricky. Sometimes it feels okay to love and accept everyone, except, of course, ourselves.

But, tricky as it is, self-love is crucial for a genuinely happy, successful life.  It’s something I am continually cultivating for myself.  Something I’ve finally learned how to do for myself. Something I’ve finally realized is the key to it all.

Here are some ways to cultivate self-love.

You Are Not Your Negative Self-Talk — Get really clear about this.  All of your negative self-talk, and limiting beliefs, come from somewhere else. We learn what to say and believe about ourselves from our family, teachers, and friends. We pick it up from the air that we breathe.  We see it everywhere we look.  And even if seems to be true, that doesn’t make it true.  It is societal hearsay, and it’s certainly NOT who you are.

Clear Out the Clouds of Doubt and Negativity — Use techniques, such as EFT Tapping,  to clear out the clouds of doubt and negativity.  Again, no matter where the negativity comes from, it doesn’t belong in your body and mind. EFT Tapping is a wonderful technique for deactivating old negative feelings and thought patterns. Contact me to learn more.

Forgive Yourself –Without forgiveness, your negative self-beliefs will stay in the dark, pestering you again and again.  Punishing yourself for the past helps no one.  Make amends as appropriate, then move forward.  Try using Ho’oponopono to help yourself let go of self-blame. To use Ho’oponopono, bring to mind something you’re blaming yourself for, hold your hand over your heart, and repeat the words:  I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You, I Love You.  By repeating this mantra, you will help yourself release negative feelings towards yourself.

Cultivate Self-Loving Habits — Daily habits.  Ask yourself, what is the most loving thing I can do for myself?  It might be getting up early to meditate. Or carving out daily alone time.  Or taking a luxurious bath.  Or honoring your needs with a series of wellness sessions. It might mean committing to a new health routine which will benefit your overall well being.  Be clear about the difference between loving and ‘improving’ yourself.  Each day, ask yourself: “How can I love myself today”, and keep this question fresh throughout your day. 

Use Loving Affirmations — Create a collection of affirmations and mantras which will help you increase feelings of self love.  Use affirmations such as “I love myself, exactly as I am,” or “I can do it,” or “I am open and receptive to love.”  Find what works for you.  And, remember, repetition is crucial for success.  Repeated affirmations will gradually help your subconscious mind believe what you don’t currently believe about yourself. 

Say I Love You To Yourself — Put your hand on your heart, close your eyes, and say: “I love you.” Repeat for 5 minutes.  Simple, and powerful. 

Meditate on a Love Bubble — Sit quietly, close your eyes, and breathe deeply, from deep down in your belly.  As you breathe, deeply and slowly, imagine that you are surrounded by an iridescent bubble. Imagine that this bubble is filled with unconditional love.  And that this love is here to soothe you, hold you, and love you. The more you practice this, the more powerful it will become.

Stay with yourself —  Even, and especially when the going gets tough.  Stay in the moment, instead of avoiding with drink, food, tv, internet, or whatever you use to avoid tough feelings. When you’re going through a tough time, allow yourself to stay with the feelings, loving them as you would love a hurt child. It’s this love and acceptance that will help you transform the darkness.

Even when you waver in and out of self-love, it’s always there for you.  Come back to it.  Cultivate it.  Remember,  love is here for you, even in your darkest moments.

In Love and Gratitude,

Marian

Want more self love?  Come to YOU ARE ENOUGH, DAILY PRACTICES TO BOOST SELF LOVE, February 24 at the Lotus Lounge Holistic Sanctuary in Morristown NJ.  Click here for more info and registration. 

Filed Under: EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Uncategorized Tagged With: affirmations, cultivate self love, EFT tapping, EFT Tapping for negative self talk, ho'oponopono, loving affirmations, negative self-talk, self love, you are enough

18 Ways to Empower Yourself in 2018

January 11, 2018 by Marian Buck-Murray 2 Comments

 

It’s time.  Time to empower ourselves so we can navigate the tumultuous terrain ahead.  We’re being called to step up, stand up, and make change happen. 

What I truly believe, is that the more we honor our sensitivity and compassion, the more sensitivity and compassion we’ll bring to our sometimes insensitive world.  Too often, it’s the sensitive soul who stays in the background.  It’s time to take a stand for the beauty and love within all of us. 

It’s time for Bold Sensitivity.

Here are 18 ways to help yourself feel more empowered this year, and beyond.

Clean up Your Food – Eat clean, green, and lean.  Detoxify your system, of excess sugar, caffeine, alcohol, and carbs, all of which will weaken your system.

Boost Your Immunity – Use herbs and superfoods such as astragalus, hibiscus, maca, green drinks, shiitakes, burdock, probiotic foods, and umeboshi plum.  All will help strengthen your immunity.

Strengthen your boundaries – By giving and doing for too many, you will deplete your power.  Set clear, healthy boundaries around your time and space.  If you find yourself overwhelmed by loose boundaries, tackle them one by one, starting with a simple one.

Meditate each morning – Morning meditation will help empower you throughout your entire day. 

Clean up your self-talk — Negative self-talk will weaken your spirit.  Here’s a way to clean it up: Get a pen and paper. In the left-hand column, write down a list of negative things you commonly say to yourself.  In the right column, write a list of corresponding positive responses you can tell yourself instead. Practice your positive responses. 

Challenge yourself – Open up to challenges. Expand your limits.  Don’t be afraid of being a beginner, or of making mistakes. The more you challenge yourself, the more proficient you’ll become, and the more powerful you’ll feel!

Exercise your core – The third chakra, the abdominal area, is our power center.  The more you exercise it, the more centered and powerful you’ll feel. Try yoga, pilates, sit-ups, crunches, and/or any other exercises that will strengthen your core.

Clear Your Energy System — Use EFT Tapping to clear unwanted feelings. EFT tapping works to clear energy disruptions, allowing you to access your authentic power more easily.  Click here for a diagram of the points.

Create Nurturing, Empowering Routines — Incorporate nurturing, empowering, routines into your daily life.  How will you start your day?  How will you help yourself enjoy and fully participate in your day?  How will you end your day, so that you sleep well, and wake refreshed?   

Surround yourself with encouraging people — Surround yourself with people who will help build you up when you’re down, and who will encourage your strengths, abilities, and dreams. 

Do a media detox — There’s a lot of toxicity in the news these days. Too much of it can feel depleting, exhausting, and overwhelming.  Allow yourself a detox by limiting your exposure, turning off notifications, switching the channel. Decide how and when you will get the news.  Be in control.

Do something you’re passionate about – Engage your passions!  Whatever they are!  Read, write, play music, sing, create art, volunteer, speak up, take a stand. Ignite your passions feel the sense of true empowerment.

Do Something Scary — It doesn’t have to be a big scary.  Anything scary will do.  What I hear about most from my clients (and myself) is the big sense of relief that comes from getting it over with.  And, often it’s not as bad as we thought.  The best part is that you’ll emerge feeling more empowered, with a renewed sense of courage.

Watch an inspiring movie — Watch a fact-based documentary about someone who inspires you.  Use your inspiration to express yourself in a bold new way.

Ask for help – Asking for help can be very empowering.  If you need help, connect with a trustworthy friend, coach, counselor, or therapist.  We can’t do everything alone — we become far more powerful when we work together.

Get an accountability partner —   Ask a friend or colleague to assist you in committing to self-empowerment. The more you show up for your commitments, the more empowered you’ll feel.

Create a list of power words – Create a list of words that give a sense of self-empowerment, or that describe ways in which you’d like to feel.  For example, use words such as:  productive, courageous, prosperous, prolific, and strong.  Post these words around your space so that you see them regularly.

Listen – Listen to whatever empowers you. Music. Radio. Podcasts. Meditations.  There’s a wealth of inspiration out there in the sound waves.

Do what empowers you. Let go of what depletes you. The world needs your light.

Happy 2018!

In Courage,

Marian

Need some help with self-empowerment? Contact me.

Filed Under: EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Uncategorized Tagged With: accountability, bold sensitivity, boost immunity, compassion, EFT tapping, meditation, negative self-talk, self-empowerment, Sensitivity, speak up, step up, strengthen boundaries, take a stand

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