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Turn Your Sensitivity into Your Superpower

February 27, 2018 by Marian Buck-Murray Leave a Comment

 

Have you ever been told you’re too sensitive?  Or, to grow a thicker skin?  Do you have a habit of taking on other people’s pain?  Do you consistently put others’ needs before your own?  Do you struggle with your sensitivity, at any time, in any way?

If you’re like me, you might be an empath, a highly-sensitive person, or maybe someone with an extra dose of sensitivity.  There’s a spectrum, and if you find that you have heightened sensitivity, you likely fall somewhere within the spectrum of empaths.

Although, as sensitive souls, we know how painful it can be, it’s important to know that sensitivity is actually a source of inner power.  What’s tricky, is knowing how to manage sensitivity — so that rather than disempowering us, it empowers us instead. 

There’s no question in my mind that sensitive people must be vigilant about self-care.  Daily self-care is not an option if you want to thrive as a sensitive person. And, fortunately, with the right methods and tools, it’s possible to turn your sensitivity into your superpower!

What do I mean by turning your sensitivity into your superpower? I mean nurturing your inner gifts, such as:  intuition, inner vision, deep knowing, psychic ability, love, compassion, healing energy, creativity, artistic vision, and so many more — and letting them shine.

Our creative abilities come from our senses, and we help them flourish by creating a nurturing inner environment.

Here are 4 Steps to Turn Your Sensitivity into Your Superpower:

 

STEP 1: EMBRACE

This is where you start. Tune your awareness to what lies within you.  How does sensitivity show up for you?  How does it assist you?  How does it hinder you?  Embrace everything that shows up with love, and acceptance.  Let go of judgement.

Write a list of all things you love about your sensitivity. Write a list of all that is painful.  Practice embracing yourself with love, when you notice either the pleasurable, or painful aspects of your sensitivity.

For one of my clients, when she learned how to embrace her sensitivity, without making it wrong, she was able to harness it in her work as an artist.  Now she infuses her sensitive gifts into her creative projects, and her work has blossomed.

STEP 2: CLEAR

This step creates space for the magical part of your sensitivity to assist you in ways you could never imagine.  Freeing ourselves from judgement, other people’s opinions, other people’s feelings, and all the old emotions we’ve stuffed down, is the key to allowing our sensitivity to shine.

Sensitive people are prone to experiencing intense bouts of self-doubt, anxiety, fear, sadness, and overwhelm.  In addition, because we are sensitive, we’re sometimes more likely to accept beliefs that aren’t even ours. When these emotions and beliefs get stuck in our system, they contribute to persistent limiting patterns.

Clearing out old stuck emotions, and releasing limiting beliefs and patterns is crucial for our sensitivity to truly thrive. Clearing techniques include:  meditation, deep breathing, yoga, EFT tapping, matrix reimprinting, heart breath, and various talk and/or touch therapies.     

Experiment with what works for you. Many times, if not most, it’s helpful to enlist professional help when dealing with old persistent patterns and stuck emotions.

And, remember, self-love is the healing elixir for clearing any, and all, old negativity.

STEP 3: RECHARGE

Cell phones, with all of their amazing apps, only work when they’re charged.  Think of your superpower, or your inner power, as a battery that needs recharging on a regular basis.  When we don’t recharge, we lose power.  Recharging is essential.

Recharging for sensitive people often means a daily self-care ritual, perhaps combined with services such as massage, sauna, salt therapy, and energy therapies.

It also means creating healthy routines to allow for alone-time, creative expression, sleep, and time in nature.

And perhaps the most important aspect of recharging, is the presence of healthy boundaries. Without them, overload and burn-out are almost guaranteed.  Boundaries can be firm, hard, loose, stretchy, soft, or any way you want them.  How ever you decide to create them, remember that boundaries are essential to protect yourself from unwanted energy, people, ideas, and anything else that’s not a match for your system.

STEP 4:  ACTIVATE

Once you’ve become clear on the different aspects of your sensitivity, you’ve begun to clear out old, stuck energy, and you’re regularly recharging your inner power, you’re ready to active your gifts.  As with anything, this is a process.  The more you repeat the steps in the process, the easier, and more powerful it will become. 

Decide now, which of your sensitive inner gifts will you expand?  Which of your natural sensitivities will help you enrich your work life?  Your relationships? Your Health?  Your Spiritual Life?  Your creative life?  How will you shine your gifts, and with whom?

When you begin to see the picture of how sensitivity can flow through your life, activate one aspect of your sensitivity.  For example if you have a lot of compassion, you might choose to volunteer as a way to share your compassion. Or, if you have a gift for sensing subtle energy, you could expand your knowledge of energy therapies. The possibilities are endless.  The goal here is to expand what you already possess, in the way that enriches your life.  This is what turns your sensitivity into your superpower.

Throughout the process of activating your inner gifts, it’s important to recycle through the first 3 steps.  Embrace, Clear, Recharge.  A continual act of self-love will help you continually activate your brilliance.

You deserve your own magnificence!

Here’s to Bold Sensitivity!

Marian

Contact me for a free 30-minute Clarity Call – I’ll help you get clear on your best strategy to manage your sensitivity, so you can turn it into your superpower.

 

Filed Under: EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Uncategorized Tagged With: EFT tapping, healthy boundaries, heart breath, manage your sensitivity, matrix reimprinting, prevent burnout, self love, self-care, sensitive superpower, Sensitivity, tips for sensitive people

Growing Self Love

October 9, 2017 by Marian Buck-Murray Leave a Comment

I’m amazed sometimes, by the number of friends and clients, who profess that they don’t love themselves.  Or, that they would like to love themselves, but it feels too hard, or they just don’t know how.  

And when I take a real good look at myself, usually during times of meditation, I notice all the ways in which I’m holding back my own self-love.

Why is it so hard to love ourselves?  Perhaps because we’re all good students, and we took to heart all the many criticisms and nasties thrown at us throughout our lives.  We’re taught to be nice to others, but not to ourselves.  And, many of us were taught that self-love is egotistical, and just plain wrong.

But what I believe, from my experience, and  from what I’ve witnessed with my clients, is that the best way to express authentic love and compassion for others, is to first love ourselves.

Self-love is what will help you take better care of yourself.  It will help you navigate the world with more confidence and courage.  It will help you stop procrastinating, so you can get more done.  It will help you create boundaries to keep you safe.  Self-love is the one elixir we cannot thrive without.

As important as it is however, self-love is often pushed to the far back burner of our lives. 

To consistently tap into feelings of self-love, it’s crucial to create rituals and routines which will help you.  And because self love might be a somewhat foreign concept, repetition is essential. Following are some of my personal favorites.

Here are some ways to grow self-love:

Acknowledge Yourself.  Write down a list of personal qualities and attributes you like or love about yourself.  For example, “I love the way I get up early in the morning” or “I love my kindness”, or “I love the way I am with animals”, or “I love the way I listen to others”.  Write down as many authentic qualities/attributes as possible. Keep this list handy and read it to yourself daily.  Add to it frequently.

Spend 5 Minutes Meditating on Loving Yourself.  Set a timer for 5 minutes.  Close your eyes, breathe deeply, and begin to scan your body, contemplating your love for your hands, your feet, your mouth, etc.  As you do this, consider the ways in which your body helps you. (Don’t focus on how it looks.) Next, allow yourself to feel love for your heart, your digestive system,  your reproductive system, your lungs, your skin and your brain. Follow this with love for your intuition, your kindness, your sense of compassion, and any other personal qualities that come to mind.  Experiment with this technique by doing it daily for 1 week or more, and adjust as feels right for you.

Write a letter to yourself from a younger, or older self.  Sometimes it helps to view yourself from a different angle.  Write a letter from a younger self, describing the ways all she loves you.  Write a letter from an older self with words of compassion and encouragement.

Use EFT Tapping.  EFT Tapping can be very helpful to release unwanted emotions and negative mind chatter.  When we’re feeling anxious, sad, angry, or irritated, it’s hard to feeling loving towards ourselves, or others. If you’re familiar with the tapping points, focus on an unwanted feeling, while tapping on the points. This will help release the feeling.  If you’d like to learn more about EFT Tapping, contact me.  For an illustrated diagram of the tapping points, click here.

Visualize Yourself In A Field of Unconditional Love.  Here’s a visualization adapted from a technique I use with my Matrix Reimprinting clients.   Close your eyes.  Imagine you are standing in a field.  Allow the field to fill with Divine Unconditional Love – whatever way you choose to see it.  Allow yourself to be caressed and nurtured by this love. Allow yourself to feel the gentle compassion of unconditional love, that notices nothing but your inherent beauty.  Stay here as long as you like

Take Care of your Body.  The better you take care of yourself, the better you’ll feel about yourself.  Eat a nourishing, healthy diet.  Get plenty of rest.  Drink lots of water.  Get regular exercise.  Meditate.  As needed, or as afforded, schedule yourself for massage, chiropractic, reiki, EFT tapping, or any other body-mind modality that will assist you in feeling the best you can feel.

Lots of Love,

Marian

Filed Under: EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Uncategorized Tagged With: creative visualization, divine love, EFT tapping, EFT tapping points, matrix reimprinting, self love, self-compassion, unconditional love

Get UnStuck, Tap Into Your Flow

September 16, 2016 by Marian Buck-Murray Leave a Comment

Being stuck disrupts your creative flow. It can make you feel frustrated, anxious, hopeless, and stressed.

It’s especially hard to get unstuck when you don’t feel good about yourself. You know what you ‘should’ be doing. You watch others doing what you ‘should’ be doing.  But somehow you just can’t manage to get unstuck.  It can feel utterly hopeless at times.

I know, I’ve been stuck many, many times. But, finally I realized that my stuck places were actually trying to help me.

My stuckness led directly to places within that were calling for healing. When I stopped to pay attention, I was able to release old beliefs and emotions, and tap into my flow.

What if, for a moment, you stop trying to get unstuck. What if you stop to listen to what your heart is telling you?

When I’m stuck, here are some of the questions I ask myself :

  • What am I afraid of if I get unstuck?
  • What does this remind me of?
  • What emotions am I feeling?
  • Where do I need to give myself love and compassion?
  • What do I believe about myself in this moment?
  • What’s one little thing I can do to get unstuck?

Once I have my answers, I use EFT tapping to release any unwanted feelings and beliefs I’ve discovered.  If you are familiar with EFT Tapping, use it to tap through your answers to these questions.

Click here for an illustrated description of EFT Tapping Points. Or, contact me to learn more about my one-on-one EFT services.

Next, take one little step to get unstuck.   One little step, and then another.  Just start. Let go of worrying about the results.  The energy of  forward movement will ease you back into your flow. And, the more old, stagnant energy you release, the stronger your flow will be.

For a free Get Unstuck with EFT Tapping Audio, click here.

May Your Flow Be With You!

Marian

Filed Under: EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Vibrant Health & Healing Tagged With: EFT tapping, Getting Unstuck, How to Get unstuck, self love, tapping into flow

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