Message Overload

 

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I’ll admit, I’m a little bit embarrassed to tell this story.  It’s one of those “I should have known better” stories.

So, here’s what happened.  I was checking email on my phone one day, and saw that I couldn’t read anything but the subject lines.  None of the body text appeared in the email.  Not a huge problem, I thought, I could always read my email on my computer.

But soon I realized it was a big problem.  How would I read last-minute emails from my clients when I was out without my phone?  What about the emails I needed to read again for instructions for the event I was attending.  What if it got worse and I stopped receiving emails?

So I began searching the internet for anything that would help me understand why this was happening.

And I found nothing.  Or at least nothing that caught my eye.

So, at last, I went to the Verizon store to see if they could fix it.  The woman helping me searched through my phone to see what could possibly be going wrong.

“Nope, I can’t find anything.”  And before handing me back my phone, she handed it her co-worker to take a look.

“Nope, can’t see anything”

I watched as he shook his head and handed the phone back to my helper.

Then, just before handing me back my phone, she checked one more time.

“UHHH.  Your Email is taking up A LOT of space.”

“Huh?” I said,

“Your Email.  It’s taking up TOO MUCH space.  That’s why you can’t read anything.  You don’t have any space.”

“But how could that be?” I stammered.  “I only see 20 emails.  How could 20 emails possibly be taking up too much space?  Aren’t the other emails automatically deleted?  I never see more than about 10 or 20.

Exasperated, she shook her head.  “No they’re still there. See?” She held her finger down on the ‘more’ link at the bottom of the email list.  “See they’re loading, 20 at a time. They don’t get deleted unless you delete them.  Looks like these emails go back at least a year or more.”

“Oh” I said, embarrassed, shrinking at the realization of my obvious ineptitude with cell phones. “Thank you so much for your help.  I really appreciate it.”

And then proceeded to sit at a table right outside of the store to delete hundreds, if not thousands of messages.  I then realized to my dismay, that I had never emptied the trash for all the emails I had deleted.  So I began tackling them as well.

It took me hours of dedicated purging over the course of a few days to finally clean up my phone.  But very shortly into the effort, I got my email back.  At last I could read my incoming messages.

And then I got the message.  Loud and clear. All those emails —  I didn’t even realize they were there.  And yet, they were affecting my ability to receive incoming information.  Old messages clogging my ability to receive.

And that’s the way it works.  Unless they’re released, old negative messages, from past experiences, traumas, and relationships, get stuck in our subconscious.  We can get so used to them, we often don’t even realize they’re there.  Or, sometimes we know they’re there, but we believe it’s just a part of who we are.

The more we look within, the more we’re able to see the old, stale beliefs that are blocking our ability to receive fresh new beliefs. Sometimes awareness and intention are enough to dislodge them.  But not always.

EFT Tapping is one of the best ways I know to dislodge and release old, worn-out messages. EFT Tapping works to target and release the stuck emotions and outdated information that limit your ability to receive the guidance you need create positive new change.  Click here for an illustrated description of the EFT Tapping Points.

With the release of old beliefs and messages come the clarity, the understanding, the renewed ability to receive divine guidance all around us.

Let go, and receive.

In Courage,

Marian

Contact me to learn how you can use EFT Tapping to release old, outdated messages that interfere with your success.

 

4 Steps to Stop Self Sabotage

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How many times have you found yourself halting your dreams midstream? Frustrating, right?  I know.  I know.   If you’re prone to self-sabotage, like I am, things might seem to go awry just before you’re ready to do something bigger and bolder.

It’s tricky and sly, this sabotaging fiend.   And sometimes we don’t even know we’re doing it.  Coming down with a cold, or getting injured, may seem like an unfortunate coincidence that interrupts your creative flow.  But what if it’s not.  What if it’s one more way that you’re getting in your own way, and halting your dreams midstream?

Certainly, there are the obvious self-sabotaging habits such as constantly checking your phone when it’s time to work, or watching Netflix instead of writing your blog, or doing the laundry instead of going to that networking meeting you promised to attend.  The list is endless.

Self-sabotage shows up everywhere!  It includes:  procrastination, neglecting your schedule, ‘forgetting’ to respond to emails or phone calls, not speaking up for yourself, not charging enough for your work, and not reaching for bigger opportunities.

Because I’ve caught myself so many times thrashing against the undertow of self-sabotage, I’ve come up with a process to help stop it before it starts.

Here are 4 Steps to Stop Self Sabotage:

Step 1 Clear the Fear.

Plain and simple, we avoid things that feel scary.  Get clear about what frightens you about your dreams.  Are you scared of rejection?  Of failure?  Of too much success?  Of what other people will think?

First, write down everything that scares you.  Next, take your time to focus on one at a time, tuning into the fear that you feel.  Sometimes just bringing your fear to light is enough to help it dissipate.  Deep breathing, and EFT Tapping will help to reduce the fear.

Step 2  Drop out of Negative Mind Chatter.

Mind chatter is distracting, and will pull you out of focus.  When engaged, negative mind chatter can have the power to halt your progress.  When you’re feeling down about yourself, it can feel tempting to drop everything and head out for a glass of wine, or a triple mocha latte.  The key is to override the negative chatter.

One of my favorite methods to override negative chatter, is using the heart breath.  The heart breath is a method of deep breathing in which you imagine you’re breathing through your heart.  Your heart’s energy is more powerful than your brain’s, and will help to entrain your brain into a calmer, more productive state.  By dropping out of your head, into your heart, you create a sense of overall peace that will help you get back into creative focus.

Click here for a free Heartbreath Meditation.

Step 3 Get Clear.

Often we sabotage ourselves because we’re not clear about what we really want. 

It’s hard to feel motivated and productive when we’re working towards goals that aren’t right for us.  It may seem like you’re going for your dreams, but maybe there’s something you’re not seeing.

When you feel like you’re getting nowhere, slow down and get clear. Perhaps you can take a different route towards your dream.  Perhaps your dream can take on a completely different form, that’s even better.  Sometimes we get so stuck in what we think we should do to reach our dreams, that we lose our passion.  Passion and clarity is what drives success.

So to get clear, it’s imperative to listen to your heart.  You can do this simply by closing your eyes, breathing deeply, and breathing in and out of your heart, as you would for the heart breath.  As you’re breathing this way, ask yourself a question about your situation. Ask a question about your next best steps.  Allow your heart to answer.  Listen to my free training for more tips to get clear.

Step 4  Activate Your Success & Get Into Creative Your Flow

Once you’re feeling calm, clear, and focused, it’s time to take action.  Taking small action steps is the best way to increase your motivation to do more.  Write down a list of small steps you can take to reach your goals.  And start stepping.  You will a sense of success and motivation as you complete each step. This feeling will help you go further, and further.  Keep adding to your list of actions steps, so you’re consistently activating your success.

Once you’ve got yourself going, it’s time to get into your creative flow.  Creative flow happens when you stay with your work.  Sometimes we sabotage ourselves by leaving a project when it feels too hard.  But, instead of leaving, when we stay with what’s uncomfortable, and allow higher guidance to come through, we are carried through the act of creation.

For more tips to stop self sabotage, listen to my Free Training:  4 Steps to Stop Self Sabotage and Ignite Your Success.

In Courage,

Marian

 

Get UnStuck, Tap Into Your Flow

Being stuck disrupts your creative flow. It can make you feel frustrated, anxious, hopeless, and stressed.

It’s especially hard to get unstuck when you don’t feel good about yourself. You know what you ‘should’ be doing. You watch others doing what you ‘should’ be doing.  But somehow you just can’t manage to get unstuck.  It can feel utterly hopeless at times.

I know, I’ve been stuck many, many times. But, finally I realized that my stuck places were actually trying to help me.

My stuckness led directly to places within that were calling for healing. When I stopped to pay attention, I was able to release old beliefs and emotions, and tap into my flow.

What if, for a moment, you stop trying to get unstuck. What if you stop to listen to what your heart is telling you?

When I’m stuck, here are some of the questions I ask myself :

  • What am I afraid of if I get unstuck?
  • What does this remind me of?
  • What emotions am I feeling?
  • Where do I need to give myself love and compassion?
  • What do I believe about myself in this moment?
  • What’s one little thing I can do to get unstuck?

Once I have my answers, I use EFT tapping to release any unwanted feelings and beliefs I’ve discovered.  If you are familiar with EFT Tapping, use it to tap through your answers to these questions.

Click here for an illustrated description of EFT Tapping Points. Or, contact me to learn more about my one-on-one EFT services.

Next, take one little step to get unstuck.   One little step, and then another.  Just start. Let go of worrying about the results.  The energy of  forward movement will ease you back into your flow. And, the more old, stagnant energy you release, the stronger your flow will be.

For a free Get Unstuck with EFT Tapping Audio, click here.

May Your Flow Be With You!

Marian

Your #1 Key To Unlock Your Brilliance

It might surprise you to know that Relaxation is the absolute #1 Key to unlocking your brilliance.

Relax?  You might say.  How can I? There’s too much to do!

I frequently hear this from my clients.  This sense that it’s not okay to relax when so much is going on.  A sense of overwhelm that feels like being stuck and spinning out of control all at the same time.  A sense that taking time to relax might just make everything fall apart.

Stuck and spinning, and not enough time or energy to relax.

But it’s relaxation which will help you get unstuck and stop spinning on the hamster wheel of stress.

It’s simple. Stress increases the stress hormone cortisol.  This increase in cortisol triggers blood loss from the thinking part of your brain. In other words, when you’re stressed, your brain is far less effective.  Lower efficiency drains your time and energy, and helps create a sense of overwhelm.

Relaxation helps to reduce cortisol, and bring blood back to the thinking part of your brain.  When you’re relaxed, your brain is more efficient.  And, when you’re relaxed, you are open to fresh new ideas.

EFT Tapping is one of the most powerful techniques for reducing cortisol, and helping you relax. Simply tapping on the karate chop point, while breathing deeply, will help in a stressful situation.

It’s this place of peace and relaxation that will help you open to your true brilliance.  Your brilliance is there, underneath all the stress and anxiety. It’s been there all along.

Keep a few techniques ‘handy’ to use whenever you need to relax.  In addition to EFT, deep breathing, yoga, walking, and the heart breath are all powerful ways to help yourself relax. Click here to download a Heart Breath Audio.

In Courage,

Marian

FREE TRAINING:  Overcome the Fear of Shining in Your Business So You can Do What You Love. Click here for download.

Make Friends with Your Critical Voice

What does your critical voice tell you?  Does it tell you that you’re not good enough?  Does it scold you when you make a mistake?  Perhaps it tells you that you’ll screw things up.  Or that you’ll never succeed, because you never have…

The power of your critical voice might be so strong that it stops you from truly living your life.  Maybe you’re not going for that job you really want, because the voice tells you you’ll never get it.  Perhaps you avoid social situations, or intimate relationships, because your critic warns you of rejection.

Maybe it’s that chronic critical whisper, that makes you want to hide your creative works.  Or worse, it stops you from creating them at all.

The more you listen to your critical voice, the more you will believe it. When you believe it,  you won’t question it.  And, because you believe it, you will continually behave in ways to prove that the voice is right.

What if, instead of bowing to the power of  your critical voice, you could befriend it instead.

What if you could  make peace with your critical voice  — and ask it to work for you, instead of against you.

As with all friends, to make friends with your critical voice, you must first make an effort to understand it. From both personal and professional experience, here’s what I know about the critical voice inside:

Your critical voice re-circulates old beliefs about yourself.

Your critical voice repeats what other people told you about yourself.

Your critical voice is not your true voice.

Your critical voice is trying to protect you.

You use your critical voice as a way to stay safe.

You are more powerful than your critical voice.

Your critical voice targets the exact places that most need your compassionate forgiveness.

When you truly understand your critical voice, you can begin to see the ways it has tried to protect you from getting hurt. For example, when you believe you’re not good enough, or that your work isn’t good enough, it’s easy to hold back.  Holding back is an effective way to stay safe.  Exactly what your critical voice wants.

Unfortunately, our own critical voice is far more critical than most people would ever be.  And, holding back when you feel discouraged, can feel worse than courageously stepping forward.  In the end, believing in your critical voice will hurt you more than taking risks.

Next time your critical voice tries to discourage you, take a moment to acknowledge her.   Stop to say: “Hello, I hear you. Thank you for keeping me safe.”  Breathe deeply, and allow her words to release.

Next, tell her some of the the encouraging words you’d like to hear instead.  Practice pivoting from critical words to the encouraging words.  It takes time, but with practice, it will become easier and easier to believe in yourself.

Remember that your critical voice targets your most hidden, insecure places.  These are exactly the places that need the most encouragement, the most compassion, the most understanding.  More criticism won’t help — it will only trigger more holding back.  Shift from discouragement to encouragement, and  you will find your courage.

Bottom Line – your critical voice wants to keep you safe.  Honor this, by finding ways to make risk-taking feel safer.  Stop trying to please the critics.  Stop listening to the naysayers.  Instead, surround yourself with encouraging people.  Share your work with people you trust.  Talk to yourself in encouraging ways.  Use techniques such as EFT and guided meditation to help you feel better about yourself.

To learn more about my Tame Your Inner Critic Mini Program, click here.

In Courage,

Marian

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